Monday, July 13, 2009

Name Change Etiquette

I had a few questions las week concerning the etiquette in name changing.

I honestly had no idea what the propper etiquette was so I did a little digging.
Here is what I found:
Traditionally women were supposed to change their maiden name to their husbands' surname upon marriage. This was a sign of commitment and respect. Now days you have an option.
Not taking your husbands last name doesn't show a sign of disrespect or commitment it could very well be for business reasons, say if you already have an established medical practice, then it might be difficult to change your name professionally and personally. So I think you really have a handful of options. Here is a few:
Original Name:
Amy Lee Smith
Joe Ryan Thomas
Amy Lee Thomas
Amy Lee Smith-Thomas
Amy Smith Thomas
When I get married in October I will be taking my Fiance's last name.
Ashley Brooke Daniel = Ashley Brooke Quintana
How fun does that sound?!


Nicole-Lynn said...

That's very exciting you're taking your fiance's last name! :)

Piper Jacquelyn said...

Ooh, I like your new name! I don't think that I would change mine personally, but mine is just too long & hilarious to change, ha!

Brown Eyed Girl said...

While I certainly understand keeping your maiden name for professional reasons, I can't imagine not taking my husbands last name. I just love being the Mrs. to his Mr. !

The big debate for me was whether to keep my middle name or change it to my maiden name. I Seriously considered keeping all the names... no hyphen but keeping the maiden name as a second "middle" name. I ended up keeping my middle name and dropping the maiden.

mrosev14 said...

You name is going to be so fun. I have such a hard time deciding what I am going to do with my name.

I love being Meghan Rose Vesey but I want to be Mrs. Nesom; however, if I do that, the Vesey name will die. My sister and I are the last generation to have it and clearly being two'll will disappear.

I don't know, I've gone by Meghan Rose forever. So do I lose the Rose and therefor lose the name I've gone by forever or do I lose my family name...oh the questions.

Mrs. Newlywed said...

I am still going back and forth about the name change, and I've been married a year!

I started to change my name about 6 months after we got married, and I am STILL not done. It is an awful process. At this point, I am actually thinking of going back to my maiden name. I would legally be Ms. Maiden Name, but socially I would be Mrs. Newlywed.

The amount of paperwork, faxes, etc etc just makes it so awful. You would think they could make the process easier.

If I had known how ridiculous it was going to be I never would have started the process. I didn't care either way.

Nikki Cogg said...

The process isn't too bad- they have a ton of software out there that already has all of your paperwork on it, just fill in the blanks and fax it to the appropriate people. I got a "Name Change Kit" on ebay and it was only about $10- saved me so much time and hassel. They give you step by step instructions, correct forms, the common addresses to send them, and made the process quick and painless. I went from Miss Brown to Mrs. Coggiola in about 1 month!

Nikki Cogg said...

PS- I just updated my passport, I put it off for a long time, but it's a cinch as well! When in doubt be sure to go ahead and send a copy of your marriage license, even if they may not require it.

Legallyblondemel said...

Interesting - this may be a Southern / Texas thing, but the tradition down here (and how I understood the Emily Post version to be) is to do First Name + Maiden Last Name + Married Last Name. (This is the option I took).

Like you said, the nice thing today is that we can do whatever we & our fiances feel is best for us individually.

elizabeth Langgle: said...

sounds lovely :) i was going to add your "button" to my blog, but it is showing up as super tiny... any suggestions?

elizabeth Langgle: said...

oops. never mind. i got it to work :)

Milltini said...

Love your new name :-) And I will definitely be changing my name when I get married--the perfect excuse for a whole new set of stationary, right?

Jill said...

I wasn't sure at first if I was going to take my husband's name. After careful consideration and talking with him about why it was important to him that I took his name, I decided to take his last name.

And during the process, I found it really confusing and a pain in the butt to find any helpful info online. I paid for a service to help, and found that was a waste of money. So I decided to put the info I found in one helpful place at It's free name change, newlywed and wedding advice. Hope the site can help you when you're ready to change you name.

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