Wednesday, January 20, 2010

What Etiquette is Not.

I spend a lot of time writing about etiquette and what it involves and encompasses.  I search for tips and answer questions as best as I can in order to help people handle situations with grace.  As I was thumbing through my Emily Post's Etiquette this morning, I came across an interesting little box on one of the pages..."What Etiquette is Not."  I think this is important because it takes the veil off of etiquette and helps people understand that it is accessible for everyone.

What Etiquette is Not:

1.  A set of rigid rules: Emily Post has emphasized from the beginning that manners change with the times. Etiquette is a fluid guideline for doing things in ways that make people feel comfortable.

2.  Something for the wealthy or well-born: Etiquette is a code of behavior for people of all social and socio-economic standing.  Good manners can enhance anyone's life.

3.  A thing of the past: While today's more casual approach may lead you to believe the standards of yesterday have disappeared, the cornerstone principles of etiquette are a solid as ever.

4.  Snobbishness: Another name for pretentiousness, snobbery violates everything etiquette is about.  Etiquette is about being respectful and considerate and snobs are anything but.

1 comment:

Anne said...

These tips are marvelous and flexible! Too often etiquette gets a negative rap, although sometimes it is needed. Today we wrote about "10 Social Don'ts for 2010" which you might be interested in reading

P.S. Your card designs are gorgeous! Great work!

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